Let's Talk About Gender Rolls and Family

blog post #3

to start, i want to address the issue of gender rolls in society today as we all are familiar with what is expected of you being male or female... being a woman, we are expected to clean the house, cook and tend to the needs of the family. in the midst of doing so (though we are so very good at care taking), where and when is there ever room for free time? YOU time? you are so busy taking care of everyone else that it is easy to forget about your own wants and needs. over time, this has lead to a very submissive woman. women are not naturally submissive. we are very powerful and loving beings, yes, but this does NOT make us weak, which is commonly perceived by the dominitive male... men are expected to be the bread winners and buy us nice things and/or let the woman spend the money and when he gets home from work, he gets to watch tv or play video games the rest of the evening (essentially, quite a bit more free time than the woman). and because he is the bread winner, he is "head of household" when its mostly YOU taking care of the house hold...
sounds pretty backwards if you ask me.
my reasoning behind saying women are not naturally submissive and men are not naturally dominitive is that before "civilized" society, we lived in tribes. LARGE tribes where every one was equally responsible for the duties and needs of that tribe. yes, the men hunted. and that's not because they were more capable, or more strong... but because women were seen as sacred, closer to god/spirit (and it's true, we are). the men of the indigenous tribes protected and took very good care of the females - the creators and the life bringers. back then, the women were sought out for advice, and were asked for guidance in many tough times because our intuition/connection to spirit was so great  (and it still is) that it was believed we could bring much light and knowledge to a situation that was otherwise unsure. men are naturally in charge of taking action and the women were, at times, responsible for what that action was... so really, we are naturally neither submissive or dominitive. naturally, the male and female had very mutually beneficial rolls in their community/family/tribe. we naturally would work side by side, "together as one", like they say at EVERY marriage ceremony... i believe the meaning of that phrase has been lost in a "civilized" society of fear-full people. dont get me wrong, marriages today are like that of a tribe (but much smaller), growing your family, providing for the family and protecting the family... and we do still work in mutually beneficial rolls... but how its done in comparison now, as to how it was for our ancient ancestors is very, very different. despite this difference, let us not forget that as a married union and growing family, we are one, in all that we do, think and believe... no matter the difference in perspective, you are in synch and unity and harmony with each other. married or not, you are still one with Spirit and not only are you a product of love, but you are beautiful, wonderful and perfectly imperfect from the inside out.
One Love <3